Part 1) Is Running Away From Home Really Worth It?
Running away sounds great, doesn’t it? No longer will you have to put up with all the bullshit of life. You won’t have to do what your parents tell you and you won’t have to go to school or work. You can be your own person and do whatever you decide.
However, running away from home is no insignificant undertaking and it can have huge implications for you, your family, and friends. Not to mention, it can be extremely dangerous and even illegal in some states. So before you hastily make a decision, pack your bags and head out the front door, you need to seriously ponder over whether running away is really worth it.
A very wise man once told me, never do anything unless you can think of three very good reasons to do so. In order to help you make a decision, below you will find a short list of the pros and cons of running away that I have learned from experience.
Pros:
1) You will experience a freedom that most people only dream of.
2) You will travel, see amazing places, and meet remarkable people.
3) You will gain a new perspective on life.
4) You will overcome many of your fears and grow as a person.
5) You will become very skilled at living outdoors.
Cons:
1) You will go at least a few days without food on some occasions.
2) You will freeze on the street under a cold night rain.
3) You will encounter robbers, drug dealers, crazy homeless people and prostitutes.
4) There won’t be many people around who you can talk to.
5) You will seriously hurt your family who most likely loves you dearly.
If you think that any three of these pros outweigh the cons, then maybe running away is meant for you. But if you don’t think you can handle the cons, then you should try to confront and overcome what ever it is that is bothering you and work it out at home.
Even if you do think running away is worth it, you should think it over once more. You should know that life is long and there will be plenty of time to travel the world when you are older. I know it’s hard to have perspective right now when you are stuck at home but you need to try. There is always hope, and if you stay strong, disciplined and preserver, you will become a more confident and happier person in the long run. Remember, the more you suffer, the more unique and compassionate you become. Finally, you should know that while travel will give you perspective, it can’t make you happy. Happiness comes from within, so if you aren’t happy at home, you won’t find it anywhere.
If you are still dead set on getting away and traveling, you should check out my How To Runaway In High School for more orthodox travel options. If you’re parents are totally opposed to you traveling, learn how to convince them to let you run away. If you can’t wait and want to go now, keep reading to learn how to prepare. Disclaimer: The Runaway Guide does not condone or encourage literally running away from home if you are not an adult.
Runaway Guide, where should I travel if I live in Gilbertsville? Please respond.
Where is Gilbertsville?
Thank you for this guide. It’s inspiring to read your own experiences and it’s something I’ve been strongly considering since the beginning of this year.
Have traveled on my own since I was 18 and it was always such a rush. 10 years on I feel I don’t fit into the mould that modern society (or my family for that matter) expect of me. Can’t continue to live life the way it is anymore.
The 9 to 5, work till you’re old and grey life just doesn’t feel right. I want to travel and see the world. See it all if fate allows. A tall order when you’re broke, but this is something I really want to do.
Hey Dallas,
Glad you like it!
You should go for it brother. As my friend says, Jump, a net will appear. It’s too true.
I’m broke too, 50$ to my name at the moment but I just trust things will work out and they always do.
Let me know if you ever need help/advice.
I’m just getting started reading here and hope this will help me. I’m going to be 50 soon and am one of those that has literally worked my entire life since I was 15 years old and able to do so.
I can’t tell you how true the traditional working 9-5 is a sure measure way to kill yourself, slowly without actually realizing it until you land in the ER one morning via Ambulance and start thinking about what truly got you to that place.
In addition to that, you get into this ‘traditional’ lifestyle and realize that your trapped and feel that you have no way out.
Hey JB, although I’ve never done the 9-5, I can definitely imagine how vitality draining it could be. Have you check out the Lake Atitlan Hideout?
I’ve looked up this article for several reasons; as to why many people are here, to ‘run away.’ As above my name’s Brooklyn, (Obvious) female, age of 16 years. I was fascinated reading everything. From the guides and even watching the Youtube video, haha. Anyways, running away has become my last resort in my case. I’ve thought about it numerous of times and even packed a bag on a couple, though never truly making it out the door.
This particular reason why I’m commenting is that, me and my family (my mother and father) recently got into a fight. And when I mean ‘fight’ I mean to the point of tears, punching and even verbal abuse was being slandered around. In tears I wet into my room and slammed the door, knocking it from its hinges from anger. I’ve also been going through a depressed state that I’ve come to see only tobacco can seem to help, but much like your situation it has only worsened the depression lately. When I was 15, I remember yelling to my mom that I wanted to run away, and she took it to severe cause. Almost landing me in a ‘mental ward’ or Asylum. Whatever goes. I’ve taken this deeply into thought, thus leading me to contact this page and you.
So, my last question would be, is this smart of me to do? It seems like it’s the only thing I can look up too. And me doing photography in a couple past years has really gotten me close to nature. I’ve also taken previous views in martial arts (which may or may not be important) and weapon wielding.
-Sincerely,
Brooklyn.
Hey Brooklyn, cool name by the way! I’m sorry to hear about the shit at home. You’re right about cigarettes making things worse. Best to stop now before it’s too late. I know it’s a bit hypocritical, but I would say to just try and stay strong, stick out and in just two years you’ll have the freedom to do what you want, whether it be going to college or going backpacking. I know it seems like forever, but 2 years goes by so fast. Use this time to focus on your photography and come up with a good plan for the future. One thing I didn’t realize was how good I actually had it at home. I had a place to stay, free food, internet, and everything else you don’t have on the road. If you leave now, life is only going to get harder. One thing I learned is that if you’re not happy where you are now, going somewhere else probably isn’t going to change that. Happiness comes from within.
I’ve been considering running away for a while but… I’m only 14… this makes it a good bit harder. It’s not because I want to travel or anything like that…. but my parents are verbally abusing me and there’s nothing I can do, no legal steps to take… do you have any advice and whether I should or not?
Hey Julz, 14 is really young. Life on the road is going to be tough and not to mention dangerous. I really wouldn’t recommend it. Better to try and stick it out at home. I know it feels like forever but time will go by fast. In just 4 years, you can leave legally and with a better idea of what you want. I know it probably sucks at home but if there’s one thing I learned it’s that the more you suffer the more you grow. If you can stay strong you will become a much more interesting and unique person. And then you can leave without any regrets.
I want to run, but once i get out of town I want an apartment and a job…. Is there a to turn running away into building a life? I’m 18 so this could work….
Yea, definitely. Try and figure out what it is you want to do. And then prepare yourself to make it happen. Good luck!
I wanna thank you, Leif. Originally my ideas for leaving were just a fantasy; something that could never happen. I came across your website about a month ago, (along with “wandering Earl,”) and I became so inspired by your stories and tips that I decided I needed a life change. My bag is now packed, my hair has been cut, and tomorrow I I begin a new chapter. (I’m in Florida right now, heading north.)
Thanks again man. Have a great day.
Hey Seth, I’m really happy to hear it. That’s great. Let me know if you ever need advice. Good luck and safe travels!
How do u take showers as a runaway
You go in the ocean, use public sinks, or you don’t :)
Wow reading articles like this makes me want to just leave, but i dont want a lifetime adventure, i just want a break, there is to much pressure for so many things but if i where to leave and come back it would be worse, my parents would never forgive me and if i told them i was even thinking about it, they would put me on a crazy lock down, do you know anyway around this? (im only 14)
Hey Juliet,
I totally hear you but to be honest, running away is really tough especially at your age and without money. If I were you, I would make plans for the future. You could even do an exchange in high school and then when the time comes, you should convince your parents to let you travel with this, http://www.runawayguide.com/health-spirit/how-to-convince-your-parents-to-let-you-run-away-travel-the-world/
Blame the teens for running away not the info online they used to do it through research
thankyou Leif i finally found the courage to runaway from this place ^_^
Kids have been running away- successfully and not so for a REALLY long time. Instead of looking for a cause for their son’s need to flee- they are looking to blame. I think it’s reprehensible that they picked you. I’d chat with a few barracuda attorneys about suing for slander- this hurts your reputation and causes you to do damage control. Maybe someone will want to sue Fox’s butt off on a contingency. Be worth a try!
I`m 22,after 4 years be away from home for university.. now I came back to home,and i really depressed more befor 4 years ago,i want just leave home,i cant bear this situation ……..why i cant go home??? i`m a girl and really fear of sick people in society,if i`m hurt,what can i do????
Hey Donya,
Where are you from?
I would tell you to go travel and trust in the good in people.
do you ever wonder what would have happened if you didnt run away…
To be honest, I actually never have. It is such a big part of my life that I don’t think it could have happened any other way. I wonder though where or what I would be.
hey, what`s the best season to set up a journey?
Definitely Spring.
Medical conditions. Have you ever met a type one diabetic on the run? Just wondering, as I am diabetic myself, and can’t really imagine doing any of this without seriously getting sick. :(
Hey, no, I am sorry. I have no idea about how you would make that work.
I feel u :( This disease sucks ass.
Wow, I’ve never seen a blog quite like this! I don’t even know what to say! Gosh, I thought I was alone on my feelings of escaping. I’ve had just little tastes of freedom. I’ve been traveling to Europe on my own since I was 15, but I need more! You just can’t trap a free spirit, not mine at least. I must break free. I feel being to be plugged into a puzzle piece because I will break..! Anyways, thank you for this section or blog altogether. I needed some guidance! I’ve looked through books and movies and documentaries but never have I heard, read or watched something on a person who has actually “escaped” and shares their experience and advice. And slowly but surely I will be free too.
I hear ya! Go for it again! Let me know if you ever need advice. Best, Leif :)
i feel like running away some days, but this actually make me think; should i really run away? and the honest answer after i read this, was no. not really.
I might just be over-reacting.
so thanks, i’ve changed my mind.
ab xx
Hey :)
First of all I have to say I love your website. You’re my role model.
Second I was thinking of running away. Not sure /when/ hell it may not be for the next year or two. But maybe you should make a guide on that little extra protection? Being a girl that weighs less than 100 pounds, is only 5″2 and cannot protect herself for her life (which I guess would be a common problem on the run), this is virtually my only fear. Any suggestions?
Thanks and love the site again, me.
Hey thanks!! I just met a chinese canadian girl with the same stats. She is going all over the world over the next two years. As long as you don’t take chances you should be alright. Best,
Leif :)
What great insite. Thank you Leif for telling your story. You may help other in more ways than anyone can imagine.
xoxo
Aunt Trish
This is so motivating you are still on the run,I am thinking of running away soon …is there any advice that you want to give me? I have read things on the internet of what to take and also when to do it ,but i also want to know how life is when you actually run away.Annonomous xx
Hey,
I am not actually on the run anymore. While I am on the road, I am not avoiding police these days. When I was on the run for real though, life was hard. It was really intense and I despite all the adventures, I don’t think I would do it again.
Hey um what would happen if my mom agreed to runaway with you? Also by the way cool and inspirational story! I love it.
to runaway with me? haha. Umm, don’t know what to say to that. Thanks!
thanks for so much helpful advise.